Yet again I'm stunned that you can write - at all - and that you can write something like this when you're just one month out from becoming a mom. I loved reading this, and I also think your mom's advice on shower and a nap is RIGHT ON. I have faint echoes of something my own mother, your grandma Ann, used to say to me if I was feeling down. Make sure you're getting enough rest and have a good breakfast. (It is, of course, one of the great sorrows of my life that she never met Dinesh and Leah.... the night Dinesh was born I sobbed for her and all that we hadn't gotten to share.)
You're amazing, Clara. Be gentle with yourself, and maybe watching some short takes from your favorite sitcom is in order??? your cousin Leah is a pro at finding belly-laugh inducing YouTube material. Here's a favorite: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLwbzGyC6t4 Contact her for more recommendations! :)
This brought a tear to my eye. Mothers and Fathers should not be afraid or so prideful that they never say sorry to their children. You must not be too loose or too tight. The balancing act is the point where folks feel they’ve failed. Showing them that you accept consequences for your failings too will make them humble knowing that even the Gods can say sorry and make amends. 🥰
The thing that I wish I’d had from my parents aside from less abuse is if they had told me that they loved me NO MATTER WHAT. That I’d always be welcome in their homes. That there was nothing I could do that would lose me their love. Now they are old and i am too- when I look at them or talk with them my heart literally aches for them to say that. I have given up hoping, but it is an unending ache. I keep thinking it will end when they are gone, but it won’t. Reassure her you love her. Show her you love her. Say you are sorry when you make a mistake. When she makes a mistake forgive her- so she knows how to forgive you back.
You and your husband will make mistakes. You will be tired, hungry, or angry. You will yell a little louder than you intend. You might throw in the towel for a day. You will forget to get her from soccer and show ip late. It’s ok. 🥰
Yet again I'm stunned that you can write - at all - and that you can write something like this when you're just one month out from becoming a mom. I loved reading this, and I also think your mom's advice on shower and a nap is RIGHT ON. I have faint echoes of something my own mother, your grandma Ann, used to say to me if I was feeling down. Make sure you're getting enough rest and have a good breakfast. (It is, of course, one of the great sorrows of my life that she never met Dinesh and Leah.... the night Dinesh was born I sobbed for her and all that we hadn't gotten to share.)
You're amazing, Clara. Be gentle with yourself, and maybe watching some short takes from your favorite sitcom is in order??? your cousin Leah is a pro at finding belly-laugh inducing YouTube material. Here's a favorite: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLwbzGyC6t4 Contact her for more recommendations! :)
Love,
Aunt Jane
Beautiful reflection! So glad you are enjoying motherhood.
This brought a tear to my eye. Mothers and Fathers should not be afraid or so prideful that they never say sorry to their children. You must not be too loose or too tight. The balancing act is the point where folks feel they’ve failed. Showing them that you accept consequences for your failings too will make them humble knowing that even the Gods can say sorry and make amends. 🥰
The thing that I wish I’d had from my parents aside from less abuse is if they had told me that they loved me NO MATTER WHAT. That I’d always be welcome in their homes. That there was nothing I could do that would lose me their love. Now they are old and i am too- when I look at them or talk with them my heart literally aches for them to say that. I have given up hoping, but it is an unending ache. I keep thinking it will end when they are gone, but it won’t. Reassure her you love her. Show her you love her. Say you are sorry when you make a mistake. When she makes a mistake forgive her- so she knows how to forgive you back.
You and your husband will make mistakes. You will be tired, hungry, or angry. You will yell a little louder than you intend. You might throw in the towel for a day. You will forget to get her from soccer and show ip late. It’s ok. 🥰
You two are already KICKIN it!!!
Your doing great!
You are nuts. I like you!!! 😁😂